So, to my own surprise, I'm getting the itch. And I find myself pondering this strange situation. Why? Is it because of all the babies around? Is it because my baby (now 4 years old) isn't a baby anymore? This same thing happened when K was in her last year of preschool, too. If we had another, would I feel the same again when that one was headed to Kindergarten?? Is this some type of vicious cycle? Am I insane?!
Just yesterday, I asked the man if I could hold him for just a second and I smooched all over his little chipmunk cheeks while he giggled and attempted to squirm away. I'd made a mental list of why I wasn't having anymore kids, I even posted a tiny bit of it here. (OK, so I was fuming because I was having a rough day and feeling the SAHM blues, woe is me.)
Not long ago, I approached C with the subject of adding on (by the way, he wants four.) I questioned him, Why do you want more? Less is more, I said. Then, I proceeded on, keeping my list in the forefront of my thoughts and blasting away, shot after shot. My intentions - to extinguish his desire to increase our family.
Now, what the heck is going on. Someone put on the brakes, who is this lady?!
Monday, I was talking to another SAHM of three. A year apart in age, I'm intrigued by her presence, confidence, her solid faith. She spoke of the pros and cons of her clan, having more - means more brokeness, if you will. More chaos, more mommy, mommy, mommy. Could I handle that? Whew, sometimes it seems like an overflowing plate but, each day I say yes.
Maybe this has something to do with it. In a different way, I can relate so much to this..."my former self was small and inexperienced and a bit off track from what life is really about, I am realizing more that, while I have changed in good and needful ways, I am very much the same as well" - from Kelle Hampton's "this is it". (One of my favorite bloggers! If you're interested in reading more from Kelle start here.) I too, have changed. Now, I'm finally finding me and just like she says, "what life is really about." C and I are in a good place. More than ever, we are fitting together like a glove, learning to mesh and understand each other.
I read this today, "...in church one Sunday the pastor talked about a very different kind of list: a to-be list. He said that most of us are so busy doing that we forget to be - to be kind, to be peaceful, to be centered, to be loving." - Guideposts Jan.2009 from Jan Weeks, Grand Junction, Colorado. These days, I am more confident, less anxious, more comfortable in my own skin than I've ever felt before. I am becoming more patient, more loving, more settled. Yep, definitely settled. I am learning to be and it feels good.